Love not shared

The love not divided , or nonreciprocal love , is the case where a person tests a desire Amour them with regard to a person who does not test the same feelings. This can induce states of hearts such as the state of depression, of Anxiété, and sudden changes of mood like brutal passages of the depression to the euphoria.

Physiopathology

The love not shared can induce obsessional behaviors, even aggressive, towards the object of the desire. This type of drift can lead the subject to be transformed into “pervert”, or, at a less advanced stage, in “poor guy”. Symmetrically, the nonreciprocal love is also the source of inspiration of many works of Article the diagnosis of the reactions to nonreciprocal love as being “nice” or “flippantes” is a complex problem which leaves a big part to subjectivity.

The gotten rid of lover can test great sufferings of them, while simultaneously testing exaltation by the feeling of plenitude induced by the idea to be in love, when well even this love is not paid of return. He can come from there to think that these feelings justify the moral torture to which he is subjected. This is why some will prefer to remain in love with the same person rather than to fix their desire on another object.

Although the nonreciprocal love can last of the years, even of the decades, the feelings of the gotten rid of lover usually end up reaching a limit by be reinforced. The feelings end normally up calming down when the object of the desire ends up testing to him also love; when that the desire in love grows blurred; when the gotten rid of lover ends up accepting the idea that its feelings will never be paid of return; or when the gotten rid of lover turns his attention on another person, it likely to answer its feelings.

Literature

The subject being universal, the literature treating of the love not shared is vast and quasi infinite (it is remarkable that since the paddle of humanity, there seems to have been no progress to solve or limit this type of problems).

One of the nonreciprocal loves most famous is that which Dante Alighieri for Beatrice Portinari tested , with which it had spoken only twice in all its life, the first when it had nine years and she, eight. Though both married, Dante regarded Béatrice the great love of its life and as its “MUSE”; it makes of it the guide of the paradise in the Divine comedy . Moreover, all the examples given by Dante in Vita Nuova deal with its love for Béatrice, and the prose which frames the worms details its passion of a whole life.

In the elegists Roman, the nonreciprocal love is a current topic. Catulle is famous for its passion for Lesbia; about fifty epigrams express the pallet of emotions which traverses the gotten rid of lover; Catullus is in fact conscious owing to the fact that it should be released from its feelings, but lack of energy to reach that point.

A great traditional example is the love without hope of Don Quichotte for Dulcinée, in the novel éponyme of Cervantes. The " term; dulcinée" passed in the everyday usage as common noun to indicate the object of an intense love.

Shakespeare abundantly covers subject in dream the one Night of Summer , in Othello (worrying it character of Roderigo); Romeo and Juliette opens on the pangs of Romeo who believes that its love is not paid of return.

To the 18th century, Goethe mark a turning with the Sufferings of the young person Werther , who founds the current Sturm und Drang heralding the romanticism, and exposes two of its broadder topics: love and the Weltschmerz .

In the French literature of the 19th century, one can quote Cyrano of Bergerac of Edmond Rostand, Our-Lady-of-Paris (with Quasimodo, Esmeralda, Frollo and Gringoire) and the Poor wretches (with Éponine), of Victor Hugo. Stendhal deals with problem of way more clinical in of the Love . The character of Erik in the Phantom of the Opera , of Gaston Leroux, born awfully deformed, is passionately in love with the soprano Christine Daae, itself éprise of the viconte Raoul de Chagny. In poetry, Baudelaire.

In the anglophone literature of the same time, one can quote Great Expectations of Charles Dickens (character of Pip), the tenant of Wildfell Hall ( The Holding off Wildfell Hall ) of Anne Brontë (Mr. Hargrave enthusiast of Helen Graham).

The Russian literature abounds in examples, as in Guerre and Paix of Leon Tolstoï, or First Love of Tourgueniev.

The Slovenien poet France Prešeren wrote poems tortured on his passion opposed for Julija Primic.

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